Lady in red gingham…

nancynywoman:

You have captured the essence of the 1950’s fashion so beautifully. very perceptive and plugged in. My mother would have worn this for sure. Today we can wear this (and still have our spandex.) Really enjoyed this post. thanks for sharing to me.

Originally posted on darly - lifestyle blog:

Because of my studies I spend most of the day surrounded by guys (I’m the only girl in my class) and I miss some femininity, that’s why today I felt like bringing it out, wearing these lady like outfit. This isn’t an everyday look, so I decided to wear it today because I didn’t have class and I was going to meet my friends.

This look is inspired on the 50’s, I believe the style of those years is super feminine, flattering and shows the curves of your body without being super tight. That’s why Dior is one if my favourite brands.

First of all I decided to wear this vintage red midi skirt. Midi skirts are very classic piece of clothing, that’s why I only find them flattering in a bright colour like red. It might be my impression, but if I wear a demi skirt in a dark…

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From Yogi Bhajan. For my dear ones on Valentine’s Day

Love has two polarities:conditional and unconditional. Conditional love has expectations with gives us pain and joy.  Unconditional love gives us ecstasy, self-fulfillment, self-respect, self-esteem and the knowledge of our higher selves.

th-2Valentine’s day is a day of love-true and simple. Unconditional love is the power of the day. Love creates our bountiful, beautiful and blissful tomorrows, and this is God in us. May we go from this year’s Valentine’s day to the next, with the grace to make our every action conscious, intelligent and positive, and may we keep a love in our hearts for all. For is we cannot see God in all we cannot see God at all.

Happy Valentine’s Day-Yogi Bhajan February 14, 1994

Your oasis is anywhere you are

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Oasis.”

Finding the Calm.

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“Meditate Schmeditate”, my mother-in- law, Dora once said to her son, my husband, Mark as he headed off one summer day in Long Beach to find a quiet bench on the boardwalk to attend to his twice daily meditation practice. From that day on, every time Mark would go sit down to meditate he would say to me, “I am going to go “meditate-schmeditate” and we would both laugh about it.

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Twenty minutes a day, twice a day for over thirty years. Rarely did Mark miss taking time out to do his Transcendental Meditation practice. When he was an educator in the New York City Public Schools, he rose 45 minutes early to meditate then showered, shaved, dressed, made his coffee and peanut butter sandwich (for the energy he needed in his high-stress –very- hectic- job as school principal) and then pack himself an apple, a few clementine oranges and some almonds. He would then get into his silver Volvo 240 to drive to East New York, Brooklyn.

In my eyes (and the eyes of many others I bet)  Mark was a true enlightened warrior.

Mark took his training for Transcendental Meditation in Manhattan in the early 1970’s. Once, when I asked him what meditation was for him, he said something like this, “It helps me to focus. Meditation rests my mind. It helps me to relieves stress. TM helps me to get things done.” I often noticed he seemed happy and more relaxed when he completed his daily meditations. I admire how he stuck with it day in and day out.

When I asked him if meditating meant he turned off his thoughts he said, “No, the opposite, what it does is that I just notice my thoughts and let them go while focusing on a mantra. “ A mantra is a syllable or sound to keep your mind from wandering over to list-making and looking ahead to the busy-ness of the day ahead

Meditation,  a practice thousands of years old available to each of us in endless permutations and possibilities, has become a bit of a buzzword.And I say, “none to soon”. Mark was onto something 40+ years ago.

In a recent interview at the 92nd Street Y, Ariana Huffington spoke about the many CEO’s who meditate including most famously the late Steve Jobs.

Studies using MRI’s have shown that the brains of Tibetan Buddhist monks who meditate daily and for long periods of time have shown brains with increased gamma wave activity, which help with many cognitive functions including increased compassion, improved memory creativity and test taking abilities. In short, Gamma brain waves are those that get you “into the zone “.

To my way of thinking that can only be a good thing, doesn’t your brain deserve a spa treatment?

There are health benefits. Science has shown that meditation can reduce stress, helps to lower cortisol, adrenaline production and in turn lower blood pressure.

In recent articles in the New York Times, The Path meditation center in Manhattan focuses on networking for fashion and tech millennials, through meditation. According to the article, many post-meditation deals have been made and jobs have been found. In Los Angeles, there are “Drybar” style meditation centers popping up.

This is an interesting development really just a twist on ashrams. From where I sit making new friends and business contacts at a place like The Path or Suzee Yalof’s place in LA  is a happy alternative to a loud bar or restaurant. People who meditate tend to enjoy being here now. There is a shared experience when meditating in a community. It’s a peaceful practice.

In  another article in the NY Times it was shown that meditation has the potential to help students to increase their scores on the big tests such as the SAT and ACT exams.

It seems that Mark was really onto something so many years ago. Meditation served him well throughout his life, working in some very complicated situations in the NYC school system. When Mark  was battling cancer, meditation he remained strong , calm and uncomplaining. Though sometimes he just lost it too.

Hey he was only human.

It was because of Mark that I began my 30 year journey to yoga and meditation. As someone who is high energy, active and has the need to move, I found that for me to meditate I had to do a little yoga to limber up and release excess energy and then I could sit and enjoy the stillness. I am grateful to Mark for starting me on my yogic path.

While for me, my favorite way to meditate is in a group with my fellow yoga practitioners, it is at home on my own that the practice really unfolds for me.

For those who want to give meditation a whirl there are many places to look. There are many different types of meditations to try on youtube.com, where you can practice in your living room.

Do your best not to judge yourself. According to meditation teacher and American Buddhist teacher, Jack Kornfeld, it takes many lifetimes to master meditation so why not just enjoy it? There is no right way to do it.

It can be as simple as just following the breath for 5 minutes a day while sitting still. Do this: Just sit quietly, follow your breath and it will unfold. If your mind wanders to your to-do list, just come back to the breath. Five minutes a day will get you started. After 21 days of 5 minutes of focusing on the breath, it will become a habit, like brushing your teeth.

Meditation helps us to “take out the trash” in our minds to  get access to creativity and our best selves. What’s not to like?

The UCLA Mindfulness Awareness Research Center is a good place to get some free training and introductions to meditation, marc.ucla.edu and look for the link to Free Guided Meditations. Look on iTunes for both free and paid meditations. Or youtube.com

One thing I know for sure, meditation is neither weird nor complicated.

There’s an APP for that.

Here are few apps to try some are free and some charge a fee: Breathe2Relax which is great for practice working with the breath, Buddhify 2 with lots of good information and various meditations that run from 5 to 20 minutes, Omvana has music, talks, guided meditations and much more. Search your APP store to see what’s available read reviews try a few different types of meditation.

Find your calming place, I am betting you will be glad you did.

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Be audacious. Call your mom. Call your friends. Call the people you love.

Call your friends.  Call your family. Call your mom. Call your cousins. Call the people you love.

“What? Do what?” I hear you say while your mental red+telephonebrakes are screeching!

You read that right.

Call your friends.

I am working on a new idea.That thing in your hand that you are always looking at, (I hope not while you are making love though puleez!)

That is a PHONE as in iPhone. So why not use it?

I know totally radical. But I am going for radical and nothing less. This is an intention for the New Year.

Am starting a Call -your-friends-and-family movement”.

Use your phone as a telephone. Yes I know I am so weird, so last century.

Call me crazy.

Call me old fashioned but I am up to bringing back talking on phones to each other using our ears, hearts and voices.  Just not so loudly in an elevator that I know all the details of your root canal and  please keep your voice down on a train or in a restaurant.And nope not in a yoga studio either. Nor movies or a play.

Please be considerate and speak softly.

And if you are driving use a Bluetooth or other headset or in dash device. The life you save could be mine. Thank you very much.

Now before you get all weird. A Text is a great thing for sharing information  I love being able to instantly let someone know I am running out the door see you soon..

It is not an activity for when you are driving.

Talking on the phone equals Connection. I don’t know about you but I get a lift  when I speak to family and friends and I hear their voices. There is no substitute for the sound of the human heart as expressed in emotion and connectivity through the spoken, shared word. If we really listen you can hear so much of what is being said and what is left unspoken. No amount of Emoji’s is a substitute for the spoken word.

(And I am known as the Emoji queen in my family.:) xo

The sound of who we are what the heart feels that is what one hears in voice to ear, ear to voice communications.  Is it possible we twenty-first century beings are so over loaded that we are afraid of intimacy and  of the time it takes, that we prefer a text to true heart-level conversation?

Here is a thought for the New Year. What if the more we connect with others and truly get to know their heart, the more chance we have for living together peacefully. One person at a time.

So get radical.

Call a friend  Check in with your family. Face-time them. Call someone. Surprise them. Set up your voice-mail. Go out on a limb! Whatever works. Just find your groove and make a move. Take the time to say “hi”.

Have intimate giggling, crying, sharing enjoying, heart-centered conversation. Even just for 5 minutes. Snuggle up with that phone of yours and call someone you love.

Once caveat here: you might have to send them a text to tell them what you are up to. Or share this with your friends and let them know it’s my fault you are calling them.

Happy New Year and give it a whirl.

That’s so fancy.

Xo love and light.

The clock is ticking.

The Clock is ticking.

CANCER S*CKS.

MARK AND I USED TO SAY IT ALL THE TIME.

AND RIGHT NOW 200% OF EVERY DOLLAR DONATED GOES TO RARE CANCER RESEARCH led by Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center

WHY? FOR EVERY DOLLAR DONATED EVERY DOLLAR WILL BE MATCHED.

100% 5.00 becomes 10.00, 50.00 > to 100.00.

BUT ONLY UNTIL DEC 31ST.

PLEASE BE AS GENEROUS AS YOU CAN AND MAKE YOUR 100% TAX DEDUCTIBLE DONATION TODAY

TO CYCLE FOR SURVIVAL IN LOVING MEMORY of OR IN SUPPORT OF SOMEONE YOU LOVE AND FOR FUTURE GENERATIONS.

I ride to honor and remember Mark.

I ask FOR DONATIONS (and I promise you no one likes to have to ask for them and I include myself there)

–however each Cycle for Survival season I ask again so that the money can be put to research to find treatments so that one day every person can be told,

“We have a treatment for you and it works.” And then I would not have to ask you anymore. that would be pretty cool.

http://mskcc.convio.net/goto/teammark <go here to donate

LET’S CONQUeR ALL RARE CANCERS. Every dollar matters. Thank you for your generosity.

http://mskcc.convio.net/goto/teammark <go here to donate
May your new year be happy, healthy and full of love.

XOXO

Nancy

PS peek around the website and see how the money is being used and the treatments and trials in progress. Join the Battle. xoxo

http://www.cycleforsurvival.org

http://mskcc.convio.net/goto/teammark

donate here. xo

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Week 33 // Point of Return

nancynywoman:

I know just what she means. Losing my husband of 26 years-my love for 30-there are glimmers now of a different world for me. Not without him for he is always in my heart and by my side. Just in a new way as he once said, “I will be your spirit in the sky.” And so he is. Always and forever. Love this post.

Originally posted on 12 Months of Creativity:

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I wanted to talk a bit in this post about the idea of claiming yourself again on the journey of grief. It seems, as I am discovering, that there comes a time when you begin to truly be done with the heaviness of grief at its worst. After years of feeling and crying and aching and longing… years of shutting yourself out from the world and from life, years of clawing your way through the mud and fighting for your very life… I think there comes a time when a shift begins to happen. And you begin to return to yourself and to life.

As I was talking to my grief coach this week, I shared something that I’ve struggled with the past three or four months in relation to this project. I explained to him that for several months now – without entirely realizing it…

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